In order to truly know a person, and to see all his strengths and weaknesses, it takes not time and trust, but to get into certain situations. Under the influence of external circumstances, the true essence of a person is revealed, and it helps you to understand who is in front of you. We have collected a few examples of situations that will allow you to see the inner world of the person.
1. Stressful situations
No matter how serious a stressful situation a person finds themselves in, look closely at how he reacts to it. When stressed, people can take their aggression out on others, lose their ability to think clearly, become overly nervous and dramatic, give up without even trying to change things, or start blaming others for their problems.
The way a person behaves when confronted with a small problem can give you an indication of what you can expect from them when big troubles come into his life. If he can't pull themselves together and start acting now, it's foolish to hope that next time he will hold back his emotions, take responsibility for his mistakes, and throw themselves into dealing with the source of the stress.
2. Achieving success
Those whom you used to consider friends can be happy to support you in a difficult moment, but spoil your mood when something good happens in your life. The reason for this can be simple envy.
If you understand that in the happiest moments those who surround you, only imitate joy or try to devalue your achievements and adjust you on the negative – run from those people. It is only a pathetic semblance of friendship that will do you no good.
3. Living together
You can really get to know a person when you spend a lot of time under the same roof. By living together with them, you can see if they respect your personal space, if they're willing to compromise, share, consider your needs when making decisions, etc. It happens that the strongest couples or closest friends, trying to share the same living space, part almost as enemies.
4. Situations in which you will need support
Only when you find yourself in a difficult situation will you realize the kind of people you have surrounded yourself with. You can be a great person who is willing to help everyone in any way you can, but that doesn't guarantee anything. Many people like to take advantage of the kindness of others – they are constantly asking, but do not give anything in return.
If you are going through a stressful situation and need support and help, people who care about you can't stay away. They will do anything to ease your burden and put you in a positive frame of mind.
5. When you are no longer useful to the person
When someone needs something from you, he will be kind, caring, and attentive to you. And this attitude can last for years, if all this time you have been helping the person in some way. But when circumstances change, many friends and good acquaintances suddenly begin to reduce your communication to zero or ignore you.
If you understand that your relationship with a person is based on one-sided assistance and support, if how important you are to your friend at a particular moment is determined by your usefulness, stop communicating.
6. Financial difficulties
How does a person behave when faced with financial difficulties – does he try to fix the situation as quickly as possible, or does he complain endlessly about life, borrow and not pay back the money, whine and demand special treatment? Money problems are a great way to find out if someone you know has inner strength and a desire to be independent. People who are resourceful and strong in spirit won't shirk their responsibilities and abuse the help of others.
7. Discussing other people
Everyone discusses other people-just some people do it in a positive way, citing them as an example or praising them for their achievements, while others just gossip, gloat, and criticize. Discussing people can help you figure out who is in front of you-an adequate person or one who has no respect for anyone but themselves.
If in your presence a person unceremoniously discusses and condemns other people, be sure: when you are not present, you become another object of ridicule and humiliation. It's up to you to decide whether you need and want to trust such a friend in your circle.
8. Situations in which people should admit they were wrong
People who value a relationship with you will try to admit their guilt and ask forgiveness for their words and actions. Only people who are not strong in spirit are afraid to take responsibility. Such people are sure that apologizing is the destiny of losers and weaklings, because they will shift responsibility to someone else in order to seem strong and independent.
Such people have everyone around them to blame but themselves. They are late because of bad weather, they say rude things because you force them to do so with your behavior, they lose their jobs because their bosses treat them unfairly, etc.
9. When you prove to be in different social strata
As long as you are on the same level of success with the man, you communicate as equals. But then he gets a promotion, a prestigious job, or a doctorate, and you begin to hear a note of disdain in his voice when he talks to you.
If you are familiar with it – to continue communicating with such a person makes no sense. After all, his behavior makes it clear that he is ready to forget about friendship or camaraderie because of the difference in your social status.